you see i know someone with quite a predicament.. he has a girlfriend he doesn't seem to love anymore..

there's been a serious trust issue from both parties.. bago pa lang sila ung girl ay parang so immature. wala pa sila 1 month towards the relationship pero it's like she still entertains other guys.

one time this guy walked to her to meet her and she complies and exchange cell #s with him. although, tht night she told her bf about it. thts one thing about her she's very honest. her excuse was tht she didn't think it would arouse any jealousy or anything (what the hell?) and of course the guy she met texts her and calls her up. but she says she doesn't reply or answer the call (do you actually believe tht?)

so my friend let it pass

then, after some months, my friend found out tht her male officemate always text her quotes and sweet messages and calls her pa. he found out when the guy called while they were on a date. she says tht there's nothing between them. barkada lng daw

he lets it pass yet again..

lastly, the girl tells her na hinahatid sya nun guy officemate nya pag uwi pag ginagabi sila (which is impossible for my friend to fetch her coz he works at night). my friend got furious (about time) and he breaks up with her.

however, the girl says she doesn't want to break up with him tht she loves him so much. she cried a lot and begged him not to let her go. my friend insists they break up, then the big problem comes in.. this girl hurts herself. like she slaps her own face and stuff even bangs her head to the wall (crazy isn't she?)

my friend doesn't hurt women, he was once a womanizer but not anymore.. he was serious with this one. so eventually he forgives her so as to stop her from inflicting more damage unto herself.

so, they went on.. but my friend never got over it.. he forgives but never forget. tht is where the first trust issue comes in. plus, he's changed of course. he's not tht sweet no more (tama lang di ba na irestrain nya na sarili nya from giving everything into the relationship and save somethin for himself.. and the fact tht he's now broken). and of course the girl felt tht he is now somewhat cold.. but she strives to change tht. she's still sweet to him and she now learned her lesson to avoid those kind of situations.

but like i said the guy never got over it. he fell out of love and was finding a right time to break up with the girl. unfortunately, every time he tries, the girl always hurt herself. and the relationship got worse. nagsawa na ung guy talaga. he tries to find her the same way he did before when he fell in love with her but he couldn't because of things said and done. so, they still stayed together

then, things just got better, accidentally my friend got close to his hot supervisor. he never expected it. for one thing she wasn't his type. but they were in awe with their connection and compatibility. emotionally, mentally and spiritually (they were both very liberated and goth they only found out when they got close) so eventually they hooked up.

but this other girl just forwarded her resignation. and my friend was new to tht company. she was already bound to go home to the province due to family reasons when he came to the company and when they hooked up. they had a good 2 weeks together.

but still they kept in touch (by the way, this other girl knows she's a third wheel and tells him tht its ok with her as long as she doesn't cause any trouble for him. and tht he could break it up anytime he wanted to no strings attached). so they kept on, always makin poetry for each other.(thts how they text.. cheesy isn't it?)
both of them were surprised they were able to keep this long distance affair.

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his gf found out eventually and a big argument followed. he told her everything, every sentiment he had towards their problematic relationship tht ended a long time ago for him. to his surprise, she resents to accept the fact and listen. she still wants him and doesn't want to break up (by the way the other girl already broke up with him when his orig gf found out coz the orig gf called her up which was really uncalled for)

now, what should he do? how can he break up with his girlfriend who still hurts herself everytime and doesn't want to accept the fact he doesn't love her anymore? he doesn't have any plans on getting back with the other girl he had an affair with coz he's so embarassed but they still keep in touch occasionally platonically. he knows he'd lose both but the problem is the other one wont let go.

what can you suggest he do? he already tried everything like treat his gf badly tht he now hates himself.
any help would be greatly appreciated..